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Hi, Dr. Laura. Hi. What's up?

Well, you know, I have a daughter who's just turned 10 and she just, you know, last week we had her first date party and it was her first birthday party.

The first birthday party that she's ever had with, you know, all of her friends in school and stuff and because I, you know, never planned a birthday party before and she's always asking for one.

But I didn't really, I would get too nervous and I would get too overwhelmed by the thought of it. And so, you know, I just always said no. And because I came from, I was homeschooled and until until night grade as the child. And I was the only child.

And so, I think that's just been a big contributor to my, you know, my stress and anxiety at social thinking about social situations and stuff like that. But I'm 38 and so I feel like I'm, I'm getting over that.

But my pocketbook is suffering and, you know, I worked some over time to pay, you know, to pay, to pay for the things at the party. And we didn't have much. We just had chips and cookies and cake and stuff like that, you know, because you wanted that stuff for her and her friends.

But I promised her that I would do the dishes for her because because that's her responsibility and she wanted me to do the dishes for her on her birthday.

And then I was too tired from all the work that I was doing. And so I tried to weathe all out of it. I mean, I just said, I just let them go. And I didn't do them and I, and she can, and so the next day she said, mom, she says, I'm not doing my, I'm not doing the dishes because you promised me that you would do them.

And so I just let them go and let them go and let them go. And now we don't have any clean dishes. And so we've been eating out instead. And I can't afford to eat out.

So I've got this big dilemma, but I mean, that's obviously it's a problem, you know, but even I want her to have some sense of taste for me.

You know what I mean? It's hard as a simple mom because I want to put, it's like, I tried to tell her like, you know, you've got to share the responsibility with me. You know, I work a lot. And so I really need you to help me help me out around the house.

You know, but she's, but at the same time, she's, she's only 10 and it's just really hard being a single mom. And, you know, I, because I care about her so much, you know, I don't want to, I try to give her everything that she wants. I give her, I try to give her as much time as I can. And I think I've been feeling guilty because of all the work. I've been feeling guilty because of all the work.

I've been having to do and try to get, try to get caught up on, on my bills and, um, so, you know, if I could go back 10, 10 years and tell myself like, you know, you've done everything.

And tell myself to be more responsible back then, you know, and have a really have a better choose better relationships. And so that I would have a father around for her. Then I would do that, but that's already said and done. And so, you know, I just adore her. And it's like, she's my only child. And I don't, you know, it's like we have, we have these fights. And I don't want to fight with her. But I need.

I love her so much, but then she like, she rises me, you know, and tells me, well, if you're not, she says, if you're not going to do the dishes, then, um, then, I don't know, she will threaten me. Like, she'll be like, then I'm not going to either. And then, you know what I mean? Like, she acts like the mom. She tries to mother me.

And what is your question for me today?

Um, I, how can I, I mean,

you know, I look at the other parent question.

Chrissy.

Think of what your question is for me.

How do I, how do I get her just to, you know, help me with, to forgive me for not doing the dishes. And then just help me get them done.

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