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Good. What can I help you with?

Okay, um, thank you for your book the public hand reading of houses. It's me

I don't know if I can say that. Um, I have a happy husband a happy marriage because of it and that's my number one. Thank you. Um, the problem that I'm having right now or the stressful I'm having is my mother in law. Um, um,

she, she and I have a very up and down relationship. Um, we don't have a relationship right now because she cut my husband off in December. She basically told him that I regret having you as my son, which was very painful. Um, I felt the pain and I don't know how much pain without because he's not a very local person, but I know that he's feeling pain.

So I forgave her the way I forgave her, but I've never had a like I've never communicated with her since then I just sent her mother's date message recently. Um, but that was it.

She never responded to me or anything, but now my husband is in a position where he wants to forgive her. My question to you is, yes, I've forgiven her. Yes, he wants to forgive but moving forward. How do I deal with her?

The way she is. Okay, I have an answer. Don't make this the longest question in the universe. Okay. I can only handle one question at a time because for obvious reasons, if he chooses to reconnect with her, then you just be polite.

Your job is to be polite, not complain about her to him and just be polite to her to him about her. You just back way off emotionally, emotionally back off from the situation and just be polite.

That's it. And trust me, that won't be difficult for you because it brings you down to a more relaxed level. You're not defending and protecting your husband. He's not a little boy. He's made this decision. You just be polite.

Breathe. Breathe and be polite. I'm serious. Breathe. Let me hear you breathe.

I'm not hearing you breathe. Make noises.

That's it. So when you're when he starts talking about her, you breathe. When he'd like to go over and visit and say hello, you breathe. You don't have to call her. You don't have to be friends with her. You don't have to like her or love her. Your job is his wife is to be polite.

That's it. So don't put any other burden on yourself.

Just breathe. Okay. Breathe. Okay. Thank you. Breathe. All right.

Thank you. Breathe. Folks, you know, you marry somebody. It's good to get along with the rest of his family, but not everybody is going to be nice or normal or easy to get along with. So just don't expect love.

Don't even expect like just expect to be an experience, politeness, and the more you're just polite.

I get you teak and I help you with that. That's a very nice chase line. You got in the backyard. Just be polite.

Just be polite. Okay. Thank you. My number 1-800-375-28-72.

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