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Triumph 111 Susan. Welcome to the program.

Hi, Dr. Laura. Um, wow. My heart's pounding. I can't believe I'm speaking with you. And it's also pounding about what I have to talk to you about.

Um, I've been okay. So I have been married 43 years and my husband. Um, he asked me to look at get something on his phone.

And I saw that he had messages from porn site. And he did not deny it. And we have what's more important. Well, this is very important.

I shouldn't say more important, but it kind of makes sense. I guess for the list, at least four years, we really haven't been making love, having sex, intimacy or anything, maybe once a year.

And it wasn't always like that. And I'm going through the anger, the upset before we get to the anger and all that.

Um, before the four years, what did you notice that was happening to him with respect to sexual functioning? I have a bunch of questions to ask you. That'll be my first one.

Did you notice before the four years that it was tapering? Did you notice that he was having more difficult time getting a direction, holding an erection, having climax?

Tell me what think back hard and tell me what you noticed.

Sure. Um, I would say he would reach his climax quite quickly. And it wouldn't be our, um, our togetherness wouldn't be as long.

And I just figured while we were getting older and that may happen, but also a couple months ago, I guess he thought that too.

He just said, I'm not really a rouse, but then he bought a mail and enhancing something, whatever they're called. I guess the generic or the main name is Viagra.

But, um, he took it once and then we didn't even have sex after it. So I don't even know how it works. But, um, before that, that's what I remember is, but I didn't mind, you know, it is what it is.

Okay. Can I interject now, please? Sure. There's some likelihood based on what came after that he was already looking at porn. And that's why it all went quickly.

Because when you masturbate to porn, you get yourself off fast.

Because you're not concerned anymore. I mean, it's a virtual relationship with the picture you're seeing on the screen.

And you're just satisfying yourself. So that is a switch. So at what point in your lives did you notice that forget the sex that the sort of loving consideration and caretaking and sensitivity in general for getting the sex for a moment?

When did you start noticing that was changing?

I think at the same time, but going on what you're saying, it must have been happening before.

But to be honest, I only saw it happening at the same time, lack of cuddling, things like that.

Okay. Well, so what do we think? What happened to the marriage? Because he dropped out of the marriage. What do you think contributed to that?

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