I Don't Know if I Can Handle My Husband’s Vulnerability HMAY Ep. 260
How Married Are You?
Glen & Yvette Henry
4.9 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 16 September 2025
⏱️ 59 minutes
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Summary
PRE-ORDER FATHER YOURSELF FIRST TODAY
Is wanting vulnerability the same as being ready to hold it? A newlywed (90-something days in!) loves her husband but admits his past trauma makes openness slow. Then the Holy Spirit hits her with two checks: “Can you handle what he gives you?” and “Steward well what he gives you.” We unpack what “safe space” really costs: capacity, patience, and practice. 💛
We talk:
🧩 Capacity ≠ desire: Wanting all the feelings isn’t the same as being able to carry them—growth over pass/fail.
📦 Steward what you have: Treat disclosures like a fragile package—follow “handling instructions,” even if unspoken.
🤫 Sometimes love is quiet: Hold space, resist fixing, let him finish, respond later with care.
🧑🏾🤝🧑🏾 He needs his people: Spouse ≠ only container—think therapist, mentors, men’s community, real accountability.
🛡️ Protect each other & the mission: Boundaries are holy; honesty and safety can coexist.
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| 0:00.0 | I often want to know how my husband is feeling and what he's thinking, but he struggles with being open and vulnerable due to past trauma and heartbreak. |
| 0:08.8 | Yeah. |
| 0:09.3 | Even though I see him trying, I wish he'd give me more and I have found myself secretly frustrated and sad about this. |
| 0:16.0 | However, recently the Holy Spirit asked or told me two things. |
| 0:20.7 | One, can you handle what he gives you |
| 0:23.3 | who that's a bar she that's a bar can we sit here for a second I'm going to be. Hello, my name is Mrs. Melan. |
| 0:43.5 | And I'm Belief Mel, the author. |
| 0:47.1 | A father yourself first. |
| 0:48.7 | There you go. |
| 0:51.5 | And we're here with episode 260 of How Married Are You? |
| 0:56.9 | Okay, my name Belief is this event. |
| 0:58.7 | We married 15 years. |
| 1:00.6 | Live in California, we got four kids. |
| 1:03.0 | Relationships scary. |
| 1:04.2 | It's very necessary. |
| 1:05.5 | We shout a love of struggles. |
| 1:06.8 | We ask how married are. |
| 1:08.6 | Every Tuesday and Thursday, shoddy. |
| 1:18.3 | If you're listening, you're in a wedding party, it's okay, if you want to be answered, you got the questions, we got the answers. It's chocolate baby story time. |
| 1:21.3 | Chocolate baby story time. |
| 1:23.6 | It's chocolate baby's story time. |
| 1:26.4 | One, two, three, and |
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