Every day you are making your brain better or you are making it worse.

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This is a conversation you need to have with yourself as well as with your kids.

What do you want?

Your brain makes happen what it sees.

You have to tell your brain what you want, clearly, specifically, and repeatedly.

Ask yourself, what type of parent or grandparent do you want to be, and what type of parent or grandparent do you want to be and what type of

kids or grandkids do you want to raise? As a parent and grandparent, I want to be present.

My father was mostly gone when I grew up and we didn't have a great relationship until much later in life. I also want

to be firm and kind. Remember these two words and almost everything you do as a parent or grandparent

will work out. Firm, when you say something, mean it, and back it up,

but do it in a kind way with empathy and compassion.

Kindness is not giving into tantrums,

because it makes them more likely to happen.

If you allow kids, young or old, to manipulate you through anger or even anxiety,

you teach them that's how they get their way.

The rule in our family is if you have a tantrum to get your way,

the answer is no.

It will always be no. Go ahead and throw the

tantrum if you want to test it. When they find out it doesn't work and make sure it doesn't work,

kids generally find a better way to control themselves. Good parents are like good coaches or good bosses.

They notice what you do right and teach when you could do better.

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