This is Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, and you're listening to the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast.

Everything can change for the better in a relationship when two people really begin growing together,

ideally with the support of a very competent couples counselor. But sometimes getting in the door

with your partner can be one of the biggest obstacles of doing that growth. How to talk to your

partner about couples counseling is what we're tackling on today's show.

And I'm so glad you're here to join me. You know, a very common question and pain point I get for people getting in touch with me through my website, growingself.com, or through social media,

is Dr. Lisa so into what you're saying and completely agree?

I would love to be able to apply all of these things that you're talking about with my partner,

and they do not seem receptive to the idea of doing this with me.

How do I talk to my partner about couples counseling to help

them see the value of it and want to do this? And I totally get it. This is a very common pain point.

And I know that having the talk is crucial in some ways and again, that first step. And I also understand

that it can be difficult. And you can't get into couples counseling until your partner sees the

value in the experience and is ready and willing to give it a try. And you know what? The willing part is operant here.

Even if you badger slash force slash harass your counselor or sorry, your partner into attending

couples counseling with you, if they are really there against their will and they do not want to

be there, they're skeptical, they're not, you know, motivated to participate, it does not matter

if they are physically sitting on the therapy couch next to you or, you know, with you in a

Zoom call. They're not really receptive to the

growth experience. And so it doesn't matter if they're physically present. Engaging in meaningful

growth work isn't an action. It's a mindset. You'd actually be surprised how many people, including individual

clients, for that matter, are in some ways window shoppers. They like the idea of doing growth

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