How to Talk About Sex Without It Feeling Awkward with ⁠Dr. Nicole McNichols⁠

Negotiate Anything

American Negotiation Institute

Business, Education, Self-improvement

4.7 • 748 Ratings

🗓️ 9 February 2026

⏱️ 77 minutes

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“Good sex” isn’t automatic. It’s built. In this episode, Dr. Nicole McNichols breaks down a truth most people learn way too late: great intimacy doesn’t come from luck, chemistry, or “just knowing” what to do. It comes from learnable skills. We talk about the skills nobody teaches you but that make the biggest difference over time: how to communicate desire without pressure, how to create safety so intimacy feels easier, and how to shift from performing to genuinely connecting. Dr. McNichols also shares practical frameworks you can use to explore more confidently, navigate mismatched desires, and have conversations about sex that feel respectful, clear, and surprisingly doable. Negotiate Anything: Take your personal data back with Incogni! Use code ANYTHING at the link below and get 60% off an annual plan: ⁠⁠https://incogni.com/anything⁠⁠ incogni.com ⁠⁠Personal Information Removal Service | Incogni | Incogni⁠⁠ Data brokers are collecting, aggregating and trading your personal data without you knowing anything about it. We make them remove it. Connect with Dr. Nicole McNichols Instagram @nicole_thesexprofessor Tiktok @nicole_thesexprofessor Buy the book: You Could Be Having Better Sex Contact ANI ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠negotiateanything.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!

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0:00.0	Today's episode of Negotiate Anything is sponsored in part by Shopify, Bravo, Cozy Earth, and Incogni.
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1:00.4	exposure to scams and identity theft. Use code anything for 60% off of an annual plan at
1:07.3	incogni.com slash anything. As always, you can find all of these deals in the show notes.
1:13.6	Your sex life won't get better by luck. It will only get better by having the conversation
1:18.8	that you keep avoiding. If you keep on treating sex like it's something that should just happen,
1:24.9	here's what you're actually going to get. More awkwardness, more insecurity, less connection, and a relationship where resentment quietly
1:33.4	replaces desire.
1:35.1	My guest today is Dr. Nicole McNichols.
1:37.9	She's a University of Washington professor who teaches the most popular human sexuality course
1:42.7	in the United States and is the author
1:44.6	of the incredible book, You Could Be Having Better Sex.
1:48.6	And she's going to name the myth that silently kills long-term passion and how to replace
1:53.6	it with a simple, repeatable practice.
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