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EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

How To Take Feedback Better To Not Get Defensive + The Major Difference Between Criticism and Giving Feedback Episode 86

EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman

Education, Society & Culture, Relationships, Self-improvement

5.0589 Ratings

🗓️ 30 June 2020

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

Swinging for the fence right from the start here… criticism in your relationship in one of the top four things that lead to disconnection and divorce (*The Gottman Institute). Even besides that fact, being criticized by your partner just sucks! It leads to arguments, conflicts, and a loss of connection at best. 

Though it may seem like a topic that you want to tell your partner to listen to, because this is something that THEY need to work on, there are key things that you BOTH can work on to better receive feedback, give feedback, and the major difference between criticism. With this you will be able to use feedback in your relationship at the right time and to evolve your relationship to be even better! 

This topic came up from the question that Aaron G submitted in the Power Couple Book Club. He asked: "how can I take criticism better? I tend to get defensive, then nothing is solved and things are weird for a few days."

From this episode you'll:

  • Know the difference between criticism and feedback
  • How to take feedback without getting defensive
  • How to both give and receive feedback in your relationship to become stronger together

 

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram

 

Resources For Your Relationship:

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  2. Get a FREE hard copy of the book 📚 The New Power Couple (just pay shipping)
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Transcript

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0:00.0

Hello, couples and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast, where here you're going to get

0:04.5

modern non-boring relationship advice that you can actually implement into your day-to-day life

0:10.3

to communicate like pros, fight smarter, get on the same page, be a team, no matter what

0:16.6

challenges you are facing in your relationship. And I am one of your hosts, Aaron Freeman.

0:21.2

And I'm Jocelyn Freeman. And can't wait to tell you, this topic actually came from a message. So if you're

0:26.4

new to listening, everything that we talk about comes from the community. DMs, posts on our

0:31.3

social media, because we want to answer what's going on in your relationship. So this came from

0:36.4

Aaron G. Shout out to Aaron, another Aaron.

0:39.5

Yeah. You had another friend. And he said, how can I get better at taking feedback from my partner?

0:46.1

He said, I tend to get defensive and then it creates tension and it's awkward and we have a weird

0:51.6

half day. So it's a great question and we're going to jump into

0:54.4

that in a minute. But actually his question was included in our drawing. It's the end of

0:59.7

the month. So it's our monthly drawing where we include testimonials for the podcast, questions,

1:06.6

anyone who shares on your stories or to your Instagram shares about the podcast. So Aaron actually won,

1:12.8

this one. We did the drawing right before this. Yeah, congratulations.

1:15.6

Yeah, congrats Aaron and thank you so much for your question. And that's what brings us to this

1:19.9

podcast today, right? Well, do you want to read a review? Yeah, so we had other reviews this week.

1:24.1

So I just want to shout out. We had Diana actually putting in a review and

1:29.5

really love this because she said, success is proactive, not reactive. Aaron and Jocelyn provide

1:36.3

proactive relationship advice for those who wish to be more successful in their relationship.

1:41.7

And get this, not just fix a relationship gone awry love that I mean I think

1:47.2

that's one of the main principles that we try to share with couples and then also she said

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