If you've been feeling lately like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner,

today's episode is for you. This is a common relational issue, one that often leads couples to

seek out counseling, and rightly so, because if it feels like you can't say a word, everything you say or do could

lead to defensiveness or negative reaction or walking away, you know, you're not alone in that,

but it's also very problematic. It's not a sustainable place to be in, in a relationship. It must be resolved if you want this

relationship to thrive and continue growing in a healthy way. So on today's episode, we're talking

about why that walking on eggshells feeling happens in the first place, but also you'll get some

actionable things that you can do starting today to begin to change this dynamic, because

we both know it they'll go.

Today's musical inspo comes from the artist Cold Spex with the song Wild Card, which is kind of how it feels, isn't it, when we're walking on eggshells

and feeling like we have to watch our step to try to avoid this big emotional reaction on

the other side. It is a wild card. So I thought it was appropriate for us today.

You can learn more about Cold Specks on their bandcamp page, coldspex.com.

So in every relationship, we all have moments where we feel like maybe we need to be more careful than others.

And, you know, sometimes that's appropriate.

But when it turns into a

relational dynamic that takes over and you feel that way all the time, that is really a warning sign

about the way this relationship is trending because it creates such a negative atmosphere. It feels like you just

don't have any room. You can't be authentic about what you think or how you feel you have to be

so careful about what you say. And one of the most predictable consequences of this

dynamic are feelings of resentment, hostility, and after a while just being over the whole thing.

And hey, welcome to the podcast. If this is your first time listening, I am your host. I'm Dr. Lisa Marie

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