How to Stop Feeling Like Roommates Instead of Partners | Sex With Emily

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 8 May 2026

⏱️ 45 minutes

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In this episode of Sex With Emily, I answer your real questions about long-term relationships, desire, pleasure, communication, and what it actually takes to keep intimacy alive over time. We get into why so many couples feel disconnected after years together, how shame and stress impact our ability to receive pleasure, and why better sex starts with curiosity instead of pressure or performance. I also talk about receiving pleasure, mismatched desires, body confidence, communication, keeping attraction alive after moving in together, and why anticipation and novelty play such a big role in desire. This episode is all about learning how to communicate more openly, better understand yourself and your partner, and create a sex life that feels more connected, exciting, and sustainable long-term. Learn more about the EMSELLA & EXOMIND treatments from BTL at BodyByBTL.com #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #LiveStream Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW: https://www.youtube.com/@SexWithEmilyOfficial?sub_confirmation=1 ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters:0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily0:42 Exploring Touch & Sexual Curiosity2:22 Somatic Therapy & Erotic Blueprints6:00 Reconnecting After 10 Years Together8:16 Diffuculty With Oral Intimacy10:38 How To Talk About Oral Sex13:16 Why Mutual Masturbation Helps Couples15:26 Learning Pleasure & Orgasms Together17:11 Helping Your Partner Feel Safe Letting Go19:25 Different Desires in Relationships22:29 Pain After Orgasm & Refractory Periods24:07 Pillows, Comfort & Better Angles25:08 Vaginal pH, Odor & Probiotics27:13 Frequent UTIs During Sex28:35 Best Toys for Long-Distance Relationships29:55 Letting Go of Masturbation Shame31:49 How Much Masturbation Is Too Much?33:13 Moving In Together Without Losing Passion36:26 Why Couples Need Weekend Getaways Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Okay, so if you've been listening to this show for a while, you know I'm not about random
0:03.2	sex toys or gimmicks. I'm about tools that actually support your pleasure, your communication, and your connection. Well, that's exactly why we created the shop, Sex with Emily's Store. Everything in there is curated by me and my team, and these are products I trust, I recommend to clients, and what tell my friends about. I do tell my friends about. It's what I talk about
0:20.9	all the time. Whether you're exploring solo pleasure, looking to reconnect with a partner,
0:24.8	or you really just want something body safe and beginner friendly. We've organized it so you
0:29.2	don't feel overwhelmed. People love the dame pillow for supported sex. The Magic Wand
0:34.2	waterproof. Oh my God, it's so good. Cray Vesper, massage candles, Joe-flavored
0:38.8	Loube, We Vibe Touch, clitoral vibrators. There's just so many things on there because pleasure
0:43.4	shouldn't be confusing. It should feel empowering. You can check it out at shop.com and find
0:49.5	something that supports where you are right now or just click the link in the show notes. Also,
0:55.0	keep an eye out for curated collections coming soon right home from work walk the dog kids are back up the stairs
1:02.7	for something uh back down no idea what i went up for mom what, what's for dinner? Chop, sizzle, done.
1:13.6	Hello Fresh can't slow life down, but it makes bringing everyone together around the table
1:18.6	a whole lot easier.
1:20.6	So it's phones down, forks up.
1:22.6	Hello Fresh. Bring back dinner time.
1:25.6	Your sex life is not broken.
1:29.1	It's not over.
1:30.4	It's really another way.
1:31.4	It's sort of like the love languages, but for sex.
1:34.0	If we're in a relationship with somebody, we have to talk about our sex life.
1:37.8	I'm a huge fan of mutual masturbation.
1:39.7	It's better than faking it.
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