My darling, you know what stuck looks and feels like. It's saying, yeah, sure, okay, or no worries

when you're screaming absolutely not, or very worries on the inside. It's switching jobs,

partners, friends, towns, careers, and finding yourself in the exact same lousy, painful patterns all over again

in a completely different situation. It's overthinking every conversation for three days straight.

It's talking yourself out of your own needs. It's micro-analizing their facial expressions,

their emotions, their wants, their desires,

so you can get ahead of it and keep them from having big feels you don't want them to have.

It's struggling to make decisions and second-guessing yourself endlessly.

It's not starting because you're scared of not doing it perfectly.

It's walking away from a moment thinking, oh God, why did I do that again?

It's that stuckness that pervades. My beauty, my perfect tender ravioli, I know what that feels

like, because you know I've been there. I also know you've read the books, you've listened to the

podcast, you get the patterns in your smart

mind, like you get it all from the neck up, but you're still self-abandoning in real time.

Not because you're broken, not because you're not trying hard enough, Lord knows you're trying

hard enough, but because your nervous system still thinks those old patterns are what keep you

safe. And of course it does. No one ever taught you how to shift that. So here I am. That's what we're doing together. Starting May 7th in my free four-part workshop series, why you're stuck and how to finally change. I'll show you why your nervous system pulls you back into people-pleasing

perfectionist and codependent habits, why knowing better has never been enough and never will be,

how to build the real capacity to do something different without the shame spiral. This is the

nerdy, potent, somatic work that changes lives. Not because it's

trendy or viral or feel good, but because it's rooted in neuroscience, somatics, and the

psychology of emotional outsourcing. Those habits we learned when love meant self-abandonment.

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