Hello and welcome to being well. I'm Forrest Hanson.

If you're new to the show, thanks for joining us today. And if you've listened before, welcome back.

Last time we talked about one of the most important skills, just about anybody needs to learn.

Repair. We focused on why most of us struggle with

conflict, the bad models that people grow up with, what emotional flooding looks like and how it

gets in the way of the repair process, and then a bunch of things that often get confused for repair,

but aren't really. Today is the more practical part. What does healthy conflict actually look like?

How do you deal with situations where it feels like one person is always doing the work of repair?

Then we'll walk through some common situations where people get into conflict and offer some

practical advice that will hopefully maximize your chances of having things go well. So I'm here today,

as usual, with clinical psychologist Rick Hansen. So, Dad, how are you doing today?

I'm good. I'm raring to go. Yeah, I'm excited to talk about this with you. I think it's a great

topic. I thought the first part went very well, and I'm kind of even more excited for this part.

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get a bunch of bonuses in return. So last time we

talked a lot about unhealthy models of conflict dad, and I wanted to start today by asking you

about the opposite. What does healthy conflict look like? Like what's the healthy model that people

should be aiming for? I think what it most looks like and is defined by is a soft landing.

What typically happens, I think of it as almost like a trajectory.

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