Hello and welcome back to practicing human, the podcast where every day we're getting a little better at life.

I am your host, Corey Miscara, and today we're going to be talking about releasing pain versus reinforcing pain.

More to come on that in a moment. First, let's settle in together with the sound of the bells.

Okay. first let's settle in together with the sound of the bells. Okay, so in a previous episode titled, Will Focusing on Pain Attract More Pain?

One of the questions that came up around that was the difference between holding an emotion versus ruminating about an emotion and how to navigate that distinction,

which really takes us into the territory of being with our experience, or let's just say,

like a difficult emotion or struck trauma energy, in a way that's actually releasing that pain

versus reinforcing that pain. And this is a big area. People get stuck when they're trying to be

present with their experience, when they're trying to do healing work and you'll often hear them say you know

especially when you see something on instagram like just be present or maybe more nuanced than that

like the value of feeling your emotions in order to help them move people will often say like i've

done that i've been doing that for years I'm with the pain all the time.

And when you really get into the nuances of how that person is relating to the difficult emotion,

the stuck area, the pain, it's not actually presence. There's a form of resistance at play, or they're caught in the story around the pain.

And in many ways, it's a subtle form of gritting their teeth through the experience.

It's like they're looking at it because they were told they had to, but their heels are still dug in the ground.

It's like, fine, I'll look at it.

You see, I'm looking, I'm looking, I'm looking.

Is it done yet?

Is it done?

Why isn't it going away?

Why is it still here?

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