How to Read Anyone Instantly & Spot Red Flags | Vanessa Van Edwards (Fan Fav)

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Impact Theory

Education, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 657 Ratings

🗓️ 12 May 2025

⏱️ 61 minutes

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Fan Favorite: This episode originally aired on: March 2, 2022. What up, homies! It's your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to the Women of Impact podcast, where we dive deep and come out stronger. Today, I'm beyond thrilled to bring you the incredible Vanessa Van Edwards, the charming citizen scientist on understanding people and reading cues like a pro. Guys, if you've ever found yourself blindsided on a date, at an interview, or any high-stakes situation feeling like, “What did I miss?” you've got to stick around because Vanessa is here to break it all down for us. Trust me, you won't want to miss a single word of this. We're diving headfirst into how decoding those tiny, invisible signals can make an epic difference in your life. This isn't just body language 101, folks—Vanessa is flipping it up and showing us how to become the cue masters of warmth and competence, to really connect with people and avoid those major ‘WTF just happened’ moments. Ladies, you know I'm all about those tactical tips that we can start using right NOW. Whether you're trying to ace that job interview, land a second date, or just be more of a badass in your everyday interactions, Vanessa's got your back with super practical insight that'll leave you thinking, “Where was this information when I needed it?” SHOWNOTES 00:00 "Intelligence Blindness" 05:30 Activating Neural Maps with Props 07:34 Enhancing Imagery for Better Perception 10:50 Reading People While Listening 14:01 Criticism of Nodding in Videos 16:25 Engagement Cues in Communication 21:43 It's Okay to Not Be Okay 22:11 Understanding Lower Lid Flex 25:51 Questioning vs. Authoritative Voice Tone 29:52 "Siminoff's Shark Tank Entrance Mistake" 33:05 Unveiling Hidden Social Rules 35:11 Digital Intimacy and Awkwardness 40:04 Pitch Strategy: Entering the Shark Zone 43:07 Decoding Cues with Context & Clusters 45:29 Interpreting Nonverbal Cue Clusters 47:37 Contempt Predicts Divorce in Couples 50:55 "Creating Safe Spaces for Emotions" FOLLOW VANESSA VAN EDWARDS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/ Website: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsTSS1Tf72qZJuFKaN0WA9g CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. BIOptimizers: Head to https://bioptimizers.com/impact and use code IMPACT for 10% off. OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:52.9	I think if you really want to be accurate at reading
0:54.6	people, you're looking for what are the hidden emotions that someone doesn't feel safe sharing.
1:01.0	And one, can you address them? But two, can you make them feel more safe? Research finds
1:06.4	about 60 to 90% of our communication is nonverbal. It's a lot. It's insane.
1:11.6	Your subconscious is incredibly good at reading cues.
1:15.6	But for some reason we've forgotten them,
1:18.6	82% of our judgments of people have to do with warmth and competence alone.
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