How to Quiet the Inner Critic and Finally Get Unstuck with Michelle Chalfant

The One You Feed

Eric Zimmer, The One You Feed

Buddhism, Education, Self-improvement, Religion & Spirituality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 2.5K Ratings

🗓️ 29 July 2025

⏱️ 59 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, Michelle Chalfant explores how to quiet the inner critic and finally get unstuck. She has spent 25 years developing practical tools for working with what she calls the other wolf. Michelle explains why most of us are making decisions from the emotional age of about 13. And she’ll give you the exact process for transforming triggers into growth. Her motto is “I will let nothing or no one disconnect me from myself.” and by the end of this conversation, you’ll know how to make that your reality too. Discover the six hidden saboteurs that quietly derail your best intentions—like autopilot behavior, self-doubt, and emotional escape. Download our free guide to uncover what’s getting in your way and learn simple strategies to take back control. Get it now at oneyoufeed.net/ebook. Key Takeaways: The internal struggle with inner voices, represented by the metaphor of two wolves (one good and one bad). Negative self-talk and the journey towards self-compassion and self-acceptance. Emotional age and how it influences decision-making and behavior. Techniques for regulating the nervous system and creating space for conscious responses to triggers. The importance of recognizing and working through emotional triggers as opportunities for growth. Distinguishing between healthy anger and being stuck in a triggered state. The significance of owning one’s reality and the discomfort that often accompanies this process. Developmental model of the “Three Chair Model” (Child, Adolescent, Adult) and its implications for personal growth. The five pillars that support personal transformation, including owning the good in one’s life. Practical tools and scripts for managing emotional patterns and the inner critic. If you enjoyed this conversation with Michelle Chalfant, check out these other episodes: How to Tame Your Inner Critic with Dr. Aziz Gazipura How to Overcome Overthinking with Jon Acuff How to Harness the Chatter in Your Head with Ethan Kross For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	many, many people get into relationships, and it could be with a partner or a parent or a friend
0:05.0	where we want people out there to validate us. No, no, that's the cherry on the Sunday. We got to
0:11.0	learn how to do it for ourselves first. Welcome to the one you feed.
0:22.2	Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance of the thoughts we have.
0:27.0	Quotes like, garbage in, garbage out, or you are what you think, ring true.
0:32.8	And yet, for many of us, our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us.
0:37.0	We tend toward negativity, self-pity, jealousy, or fear.
0:41.7	We see what we don't have instead of what we do.
0:44.8	We think things that hold us back and dampen our spirit.
0:48.1	But it's not just about thinking.
0:50.2	Our actions matter.
0:51.7	It takes conscious, consistent, and creative effort to make a life worth living.
0:56.5	This podcast is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction, how they feed their good wolf.
1:04.8	What if I told you there's a script for dealing with that voice in your head, the one that beats you up, keeps you small,
1:11.3	and disconnects you from who you really are. Today's guest, Michelle Shelfont, has spent 25 years
1:17.9	developing practical tools for working with what she calls the Other Wolf. Michelle is a
1:23.7	therapist and author of the adult chair. Get unstuck, claim your power, and transform
1:29.0	your life. And she's going to explain why most of us are making decisions from the emotional
1:34.0	age of about 13. And she'll give you the exact process for transforming triggers into growth.
1:41.0	Her motto, I will let nothing or no one disconnect me from myself. And by the end of
1:46.7	this conversation, you'll know how to make that your reality too. I'm Eric Zimmer and this is the one
1:53.0	you feed. Hi, Michelle. Welcome to the show. Hi, Eric. Thanks so much for having me. I'm excited to talk
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