Hi, I'm Matthew Hussie, welcome to Love Life. It's a privilege to be able to offer you

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make sure you stay tuned. First, let's get to today's episode.

So we recently got this question through. I started dating a guy who has recently got

out of a three-year relationship. The idea of just being his rebound is stressing me out.

I'm 24 and I'm ready for serious long-term relationship and don't want to waste my time

if this guy is still hung up on his ex. Am I overthinking this? Should I say something

to him about how I'm feeling? So look, there are many times when we encounter someone

who has just come out of a relationship and we worry about the situation. There's obviously

a natural level of jealousy. Does this person still like or love their ex? But there's

also the practical side of it. Do I really want to be in this position where perhaps they're

not really ready for a relationship? Perhaps they're not ready to move on? Perhaps they're

just trying to do the casual thing right now because they've been in a relationship for

a while and they just want to play the field. Where do they sit? You're always trying

to protect yourself. So what's the important thing about this? Firstly, the most attractive

thing I think in a guy or one of the most attractive things is a man who knows himself.

Because there's nothing less sexy than a man who doesn't know himself than a man who's

all over the place who can't decide who's all confused. A guy who actually knows what

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