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What do you do when your child has a full-blown meltdown?

You know, often kids, when they get angry, they just, we don't identify what really is at the

root and we don't know how to resolve that anger.

I'm John Fuller with Danny Huerta and today we're going to hear from Tricia Goyer.

She wrote a book called Calming Angry Kids and here's some of what she learned as she talks with Jim Daly.

With the four girls that you adopted you had a particular story what happened that really showed this anger within that setting?

So when we brought the girls home we would have situations where a small thing

would all of a sudden it would be this huge angry moment.

So I remember one of my daughters was angry at me, she's yelling at me, and all of a sudden she

takes off and heads upstairs and I'm thinking, well, maybe she's going to go calm down.

My other daughter runs down and says she's trying to climb out the window. Well this is a two-story window so I'm trying to get up there and calm her down and because her sister's mad at me her sisters also mad at me so I have two girls yelling at me I'm trying to pull one in the

window and the third is crying saying you're gonna ruin this you're gonna ruin

this they're gonna send us away too so not only am I dealing with the one

angry child but then we have a second angry

who's angry joining in her sister.

And then third, that's upset because all of a sudden she thinks we're going to send her

away because she's seen this behavior before and other families have sent them away.

Yeah.

In so many ways you've become an anger expert.

I mean when you look at it.

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