You're listening to the Impact Theory Podcast, your source of empowering ideas and actionable techniques from the world's highest achievers. Join host Tom Billiou, serial entrepreneur and co-founder of the billion dollar brand Quest Nutrition on a journey to unlock your potential and realize your vision of success. Welcome to Impact Theory. Hey everybody, welcome to another episode of Relationship Theory. I am your co-host, Tom Dillew, and I'm here with the amazing and wonderfully taken care of me, whilst I am ill, Lisa Billew. Hi, I'm like out of breath and like, we're running around. We've had some technical difficulties. Yes, sorry guys. So apologize, and my wife is having to play play nurse So it's all around a rougher day for you. I think then even for me I got to say though my boy Ebra him stuck it out and we figured it out and well played Yeah, so well played. Yes Good on you my man. That's someone who doesn't give up you got to love that. I know that know, that's so important. So thanks to him, we're now live again.

Sorry, we're running a few minutes late. But yeah, and my poor happy sick. Yeah, so forgive me if I cough and sputter a bit. I'm hopped up on the cough suppressant. So hopefully that helps. But yeah, there may be a little bit of that. But we're good to go. we're ready to rock and roll.

Bless you.

All right, so if we just get down to the first question.

You do it.

Awesome, so should we just get down to the first question? You do it. Awesome. So this question from last week, by the way, guys, if you're watching now, please share it with us, this is bringing value. And then please add some questions below. Word. Alright. So the first question from last week actually comes from Murillo Horasis and asked would you think about financial gap in couples? Oh like getting together with somebody where there is one person is making more than the other I would assume. So assuming that that's the question I think that societally it's pretty acceptable for the guy to make more than the woman. I don't think anybody For the most part stress is out about that But the more interesting question is what do you do if the woman is making more money than the man? And honestly man, I think it it's really about it doesn't matter and I think that people need to be able to get over that real fast Like if you're pursuing what you love and you're trying to build something like it's really about, it doesn't matter, and I think that people need to be able to get over that real fast.

Like if you're pursuing what you love and you're trying to build something, like it's all about being a team, and I'm not gonna lie that really would have been hard for me in the beginning. And in fact, it was when you were working at Alan Day, which is not exactly a massive amount of money, when you were working and I wasn't, I did, I struggled with that.

I was a receptionist that I called dealership.

Yeah, so.

That's what Alan Day is.

When your girlfriend at the time is making more money than you because she's working as a receptionist, basically you're unemployed. And that's certainly where I was. So I think that yeah, I think that at the end of the day people need need to not stress out about that. I think that you have to put that aside

because it really is about who are you trying to become, right?

So if you're just sitting around lounging

and being lazy all day, I think it's going to create problems, but that's the problem. It's not the financial gap. If you guys aren't on the same page about what you're expecting of each other, what you want, like in the beginning, after we got married, I

wanted to work and I didn't want you to have to work and that was really important to

me for you not I wanted to work, and I didn't want you to have to work,

and that was really important to me

for you not to need to work and me to feel like I was taking care of you, was that weird for you? Well, I mean, so there's multiple things here, so I think first of all, come into a relationship if one of you has a lot more, just let's say, saved up than the other because that was our situation where I had some money saved up

and you know because I didn't a lot more just let's say saved up than the other because that was our situation

where I had some money saved up

and because I didn't come from

in America you guys have to pay so much money for college

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