How To Get Results With Male Clients (And Why Most Coaches Suck At Working With Men)

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Connor Beaton

Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Education, Mental Health, Relationships, Self-improvement

4.8 • 591 Ratings

🗓️ 7 March 2024

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Talking points: coaching, therapy, masculinity, mental health Eyebrow-raising title aside, I know from personal experience it can be wildly difficult for coaches and therapists who work with men to make actual progress. But! There are clearcut reasons for this, and there are clearcut things you can do. So if you're a coach or therapist who wants a better experience for both you AND the guy in your chair, listen in. If you're not one of those, then use this as a guide to help you find a coach that's right for you! (00:00:00) - Intro (00:01:50)- Therapists tend to work with men the same way they’d word with women (00:04:00) - The major reasons coaches/therapists struggle to get results (00:09:42) - So how do you actually get results? And why rapport is so important (00:11:38) - Get him out of his head and into his body (00:16:05) - Develop the skills to truly be with his intensity (00:20:54) - Identify where he feels he lacks competency—and build a plan (00:22:50) - Learn to work with a man’s resistance, and repurpose his inner critic (00:25:04) - Learn how (and when) to confront him on his BS (00:25:58) - Be a friend *** Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's Weekend Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Why is it that so many coaches and specifically therapists sometimes struggle to get results with male clients?
0:11.2	Now maybe this is an experience that you've had, right? You are going through a relationship
0:15.5	problem or you're dealing with something individually or maybe there's something that is
0:19.5	going on in your professional life
0:21.0	and you hire a coach or you go and see a therapist. And within a month or two, there's a deep
0:27.2	level of frustration within you because you're just not getting the results that you want.
0:31.3	Or maybe you listening to this and watching this are a coach and a therapist. And one of the
0:36.1	things that you have struggled with within
0:38.6	your own practice and business is actually helping men get results. Now, I've been doing this for
0:44.7	over a decade. And I've got more than 10,000 hours of working with men specifically under my
0:51.9	belt. And I've learned some really significant lessons along the way.
0:56.7	And one of the things that's always surprised me is the number of men that come and work with me
1:00.8	in some capacity, whether it's a weekend, whether it's one-on-one or a group environment.
1:06.0	And they say the same thing. I've been in therapy for X number of years and the last hour was more impactful
1:12.4	than all of that. And it got me thinking, why is that? Why is it that so many therapists and coaches
1:19.7	struggle to work with men in an effective way that actually yields results? And there's a number of
1:27.1	reasons why that is.
1:28.7	I'm going to lay it out.
1:30.0	And then I'm going to talk to you a little bit about how do you actually get results
1:34.1	with the men that you're working with.
1:35.6	Now, if you're not a coach or a therapist, this is still going to apply to you
1:39.1	because this is going to help you identify who you should be looking for, what qualities you should be looking
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