Hi everybody. Welcome to the women's dating and confidence podcast. My name is Amber, and today we're going to be talking about how to get over a guy that you dated years ago.

So this episode is actually based on the following

listener question. Hi, Amber. The first guy I ever fell in love with broke my heart 10 years ago,

and I don't think I ever got over it. He messed me around. We were on and off for six years from when

we were 17, and he got a new girlfriend on my 23rd birthday, which hurt, but I got on

with my life since then. I'm now 27, but he ended up getting a job in my work, and he's part of

my friend's circle, so it feels like he's always there. He's now single again, and the thoughts are

creeping back in, and I can't let them. I need to get over him. Please help me.

Thank you so much for your question. I feel like we can all relate to that one guy that we just

can't get over. I know that there have been guys that broke up with me or things didn't end very well

where it took me a really long time to stop thinking about them and stop wishing that something

would happen with them. If you are a listener and you would also like to submit your question for

this podcast, you can do so by clicking the link in the show notes and I will create a podcast episode

for you. All right. So now back to this listener's question. You are exactly right when you say

that the thoughts are creeping back in. Getting over a guy is nothing more than changing your thoughts

about him. If you have thoughts like, he was my soulmate, or he's the one that got away, I miss him, he was so perfect, or even he wasn't perfect, but we had that special connection and I'm not sure I'll ever find that with somebody else.

Thoughts like that, for example, will create a feeling of not being over the guy. If you have thoughts like,

we just weren't a right match, or I'm disappointed he wasn't the one, but I know the one is still out

there. If you have thoughts like that, then you will not feel connected to that guy anymore,

and you will be ready to date other people. Now, how do you actually change your

thoughts about somebody? How do you prevent those thoughts from creeping in and how do you get over the guy?

In this episode, I want to give you two exercises that you can do that will help you with this

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