I remember when we were first dating and I those were glorious days. Yeah a long time ago but they were pretty fun. But one of the sad things to me was

Oh, wait, we're talking about good things.

What do you mean sad?

Welcome to our marriage.

I'm like, let's go deep and feel it.

You're like, wait, let's just stay up here on the surface.

Can we watch another movie?

Welcome to Family Life Today, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most.

I'm Shelby Abbott and your hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson.

You can find us at family life today.com.

This is Family life today. I loved your mom and one of the reason I loved your mom was because she had endured so much of

divorce, losing a child. She had faced the many affairs that your dad had had and

yet she really was seeking Jesus but when we first

started dating she would drink at night and then all of the stories came out and I remember saying to you like oh man your mom is still so lost in the past of not forgiving your dad.

Yeah you know it's obviously something I grew up with and her

method of dealing with the bitterness and there was bitterness and often covered up it was just an underlying seething was to drink and to sort of just step

into denial and to hide the pain and I watch that yeah and I thought my mom was bitter I'm not and then I realize I have a lot of that as well thank

God I didn't go to alcohol to, you know, take away the pain, but I needed to figure out how do you take away the real pain?

Because we all face it.

Oh, every day.

Yeah, and so that's the topic we're going to talk about today again with Steve

Vires who wrote a book about this.

...