Welcome to part two of this epic conversation with my home girl, Rady DeVleukia Shetty, on Women of Empathend, of course. If you've listened to part one of this episode, think as you already know that this conversation with my girl, Rady DeVleukia Shetty, is a breaking game changer for all of the people pleasing women out there that need a bit of hope and inspiration and wake up to the inner breaking bad off. Now the conversation continues with writing as we talk about how terrible we are at listen

to ourselves. Yes we are guys, let's just admit it. And sometimes we low-key wait for someone else to come and save us. Now don't worry though, because these tips are about being your own freaking woman and staying in or developing your freaking power. So let's dive into the second part of this convo today where we discuss better ways to respond and stand strong when everyone has an opinion, everyone has an opinion, but no one actually has a clue about the future that you're trying to build. I know how it feels. I have built my confidence from absolutely nothing

with being petrified to make a move or make a change. And yet, I still keep going. And how did I do it? With tips, with talking about the real stuff and discussing with my homies and my wonderful amazing freaking guests that I have on the show, women of impact, so that we can actually all not stay stark so that we can all build our confidence step by step, tip by tip, action by action. And so guys, if this episode or the show, all myself bring you any value, I do ask drop in a comment or leave a random review. I know that we all ask this on podcasts but you have no idea how much it actually makes a difference to spread the words that we can really on a global freaking scale. Start helping any woman out there that's struggling. So please leave a rate, leave a review and now let's just dive in and get real with my girl, Rady DeVloocchia Shetty That's beautiful. And then going back to the purpose, right?

Is that, okay, this book actually is going to serve people.

Exactly.

Because, I mean, look, I do a show called Women of Impact. So you know, I freaking empower women through the time. And I've taken my husband's name and I love that I've taken his name. And even God, where is Christmas time? and me, my family, all his family got together,

my family got together, and I love

Tom sitting at the head of the table.

Now, my mother-in- family got together, my family got together and I love

Tom sitting at the head of the table. Now, my mother-in-law seemed a little tripped out by that and I think because I'm very much all for a female empowerment, I was like, I love seeing Tom at the head of the table and I love sitting next to him, like on the side. And I really had to process, I'm like, oh my god, am I going to gain some? My female homies here and And I was like, actually, you know, go back to the root of how you feel Lisa, because there are some expectations that have been put upon women that I really disagree with, really, you should never have to do anything, right? And so I very much believe that, but I didn't do it because I had to. And so I had to kind of go back to grounding myself on how I feel about a certain situation and

then being proud of it and it not been a reflection of me being a weaker person that I really struggle with for a bit because I'm like, oh my god, does that make me weak? And I was like, no, actually, I saw my dad sit at the head of the table and I freaking loved it. And so seeing my husband there, I love it. And it doesn't diminish my confidence. It doesn't diminish how I feel about myself.

And I think that those are the differences, right?

In you to not take... husband there, I love it. And it doesn't diminish my confidence. It doesn't diminish how I feel about myself.

And I think that those are the differences, right? And you're not taking his name or taking his name or me,

you know, having Tom at the head of the table. I think it comes back down to how do you feel about

that situation? And are you doing it because of an expectation that's been put on you by your

cold job because the Greeks are the same, right? The man's ahead of the table. But there was this joke in my big fat Greek wedding

where I was like, the man is their head,

but the woman is the neck. Oh, yeah. She gets to turn the man's head anyway. She like, and I just want to look at what I do with the analogy. That's the thing is like, it doesn't make you weak, right? the fact that you ended up having to, it doesn't make you weak home.

It makes you look at the same situation, go, what are my values?

What is my purpose and am I'm like showing up in truth of my purpose. And so everything we've been talking about today, we're building your confidence. How do you let go of the expectations that are upon us? I think it goes back down to like, and we've said, you repeated it so many times, going back to how you feel authentically. Yeah, definitely. And And I just think I also have learned to, and not invalidating my feelings, but I do think about this all the time, especially when I hear about, you know, getting the things that happen in the world. Sometimes I'm like, okay, we can get over this a bit faster. Like, I don't need to be sitting in this for that long and things are gonna happen and we have to move on from it. Like I just think in the grand scheme of life, again, like I said, I felt it, I processed it, but I don't need to keep hopping on about the same thing over and over again. And I think that's really important too, because I think we have it's very easy to keep feeling like victim mentality of like constantly like this went wrong and then this went wrong and you kind of end up lacking gratitude in so much more that has happened in life and I think there's a very I've experienced people who are like that who always see the negative before the positive and I'm like we can still see negative and positive but like there has to a balance of, it's also about how you're seeing things, right?

Like you can see some whole situation

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