Let's be real. Talking politics with people you love can feel like tap dancing through a

mindfield, whether it's your partner, your parent, your childhood best friend, or your cousin at

Thanksgiving dinner. Political differences can make even the most grounded among us feel tight-chested and anxious.

And in today's climate where political beliefs aren't just about policy but tied to core values, identity, and moral worldview,

those conversations can carry even more weight.

As a black psychologist who has witnessed the rising emotional toll of polarization in both the therapy room and at the family table,

I want to walk you through how to have these hard political conversations with grace, psychological insight, and yes, boundaries. Let's break down what research says

about how political differences impact relationships, how to navigate these tough talks,

and how to stay connected without betraying yourself. Welcome back to savvy psychologist. I'm your host, Dr. Monica Johnson. Every week on this

show, I'll help you face life challenges with evidence-based approaches, a sympathetic ear,

and zero judgment. Let's first talk about why political differences hit so hard.

The first is politics is personal now.

Politics used to be about taxes and infrastructure.

Now it's about who gets to be seen as fully human.

For many folks, especially those from marginalized communities, political issues aren't

abstract. They're about safety, belonging, and survival. So when a loved one expresses views that

feel like a denial of your reality or values, it cuts deep. Research backs this up.

A 2020 Pew Research study found that nearly eight and ten Americans

not only disagreed with the opposing party,

but also viewed them as a threat to the nation's well-being.

That level of distrust makes bridge building hard.

Number two is political identity is social identity.

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