How To Develop Self-Worth As A Man
ManTalks Podcast
Connor Beaton
4.8 • 591 Ratings
🗓️ 20 February 2025
⏱️ 15 minutes
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Summary
Talking points: mindset
This is something I’ve seen a LOT of men battle, and with no success—and I include myself in that. This week, I want to reframe the idea of self-worth and give you a few insights that will likely change the game for you. Dig in.
(00:00:00) - Reframing self-worth, and why many men struggle with it
(00:04:27) - Reasons why self-worth gets damaged
(00:07:26) - You don’t build it by winning all the time; recognize effort instead. Here’s why it works
(00:12:00) - Release the beast from the basement
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| 0:00.0 | How do you as a man develop self-worth? |
| 0:09.6 | This is something that I have seen so many men struggle, |
| 0:13.5 | something that I struggled with for a very long time. |
| 0:16.5 | And so today, I'm going to be talking to you about what self-worth is, |
| 0:20.6 | what infringes on it and actually inhibits your ability to have inherent self-worth and develop self-worth. And then what can you do specifically to begin to develop it? I'm going to lay those three things out. There are so much more that you can do to develop self-worth, but I'm going to give you some of the core tools and tenets that I think are very important. So let's just start at the beginning. |
| 0:41.0 | What is self-worth? Well, self-worth by definition is a kind of inner recognition of your life, |
| 0:49.1 | your thoughts, your existence as holding inherent value independent of external approval or validation, |
| 0:59.5 | okay? External approval, validation, or accomplishment. Now, that last part is pretty important |
| 1:05.1 | because for the majority of men, the reason why you struggle with self-worth is that you have offloaded and outsourced |
| 1:14.8 | that validation that is necessary to the external world, to society, to women, to parents, |
| 1:22.6 | to other men, to friends, et cetera. And so there is no internal mechanism of self-recognition, |
| 1:30.1 | of validating your own existence, your own value, and your own worth. And there's a constant |
| 1:36.4 | looking for other people to validate that value for you. So self-worth is something that is internalized, okay, something that is |
| 1:46.9 | internalized. It's the intersection for me, and I'm going to give you a redefinition of what it is, |
| 1:53.2 | self-worth is the intersection of having done hard shit to develop competency in areas that you give a shit about and genuinely |
| 2:05.0 | liking who you are and being able to recognize both. Okay. So self-sworth, and this is, |
| 2:12.7 | I'm just going to break it down very simply. Self-worth is your willingness to do hard things that you genuinely care about |
| 2:19.9 | that are meaningful and liking who you are in the process and the ability to validate both. |
| 2:27.1 | So you can validate, I do hard things, I do things that I really care about, I do things that |
| 2:32.4 | are meaningful to me, whatever those might be. |
| 2:34.3 | Maybe it's woodworking. |
| 2:35.9 | Maybe it's volunteering. |
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