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The Alli Worthington Show

How to develop healthy boundaries with Lysa TerKeurst

The Alli Worthington Show

Alli Worthington

Health & Fitness, Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture

4.8634 Ratings

🗓️ 7 November 2022

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

Welcome to the show! Today I welcome my dear friend, author, and fan-favorite, Lysa TerKeurst, for a very insightful (and much-needed) conversation about boundaries - how to make them and keep them. Be sure to listen in as Lysa honestly shares how we can stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships by showing us biblical ways to set boundaries without losing the best of who we are. At some point, Lysa realized she had many questions about boundaries and relationships. Lysa used these questions to dig deeper into God’s Word to discover the many Scriptures that demonstrate that boundaries are not just a good idea but God’s idea. So much wisdom is found in my time with Lysa today…. I promise you don’t want to miss out on this eye-opening conversation! Lysa TerKeurst is president of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of more than twenty-five books, including Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are, It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way and the #1 New York Times bestsellers Forgiving What You Can’t Forget and Uninvited. As a mother of five and Gigi to three, Lysa writes from her family’s farm table and lives in North Carolina. Listen in to learn more about: Lysa’s definition of boundaries includes these three words - Access. Responsibility & Consequences. Signs of a healthy relationship vs. an unhealthy relationship + some scripts we can use to communicate necessary boundaries in our lives. How boundaries are not about leaving people but about loving people with the best of who you are. Favorite quotes: ~Boundaries are not just a good idea, they are a God idea. He established the foundations of the world with boundaries. ~When we need someone to lift up their area of responsibility, if they don’t have the desire within themself to change their level of responsibility and match the level of access you have given them, no amount of external pressure will create lasting changes in them. ~A boundary without a consequence is nothing but a bad suggestion.  ~The purpose of a boundary is not to shove people away.  The purpose of a boundary is to love others really well without losing the best of who we are. ~Anytime you feel like you have to minimize the best of who you are to help make excuses or cover up for the worst of who someone else is, that's not just a red flat that is a full on fire! Links to great things we discussed:  Free Coaching With Alli AWS Internship Program Application: Become an intern on Alli’s team Lysa TerKeurst | Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing Adele - Easy On Me (Official Lyric Video) - YouTube Music The Chosen (TV Series 2017– ) - IMDb Dual Transformation: How to Reposition Today's Business While … Lessons in Chemistry: A Novel: Garmus, Bonnie - Amazon.com Mad Men (TV Series 2007–2015) - IMDb The Crown (TV Series 2016 - IMDb Yellowstone (TV Series 2018– ) - IMDb Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

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0:00.0

Hey, hey, this is Allie and welcome to the Allie Worthington show.

0:06.7

It's where we gather, learn, share our stories, and have a great time.

0:10.8

Every week I'll be chatting with a friend who I know, who I like and I respect,

0:15.4

and I want to learn something from.

0:17.2

And after we have that discussion, we are going to have coaching time.

0:20.2

So I'm going to be

0:20.8

answering your questions about life, about faith, and about business. Welcome to the show today.

0:27.2

Today is all about boundaries, why we need them and how to keep them with my friend Lisa

0:31.8

Turquhurst. Lisa shares that boundaries aren't about leaving people. But boundaries help you love

0:37.0

people without losing

0:38.4

the best of who you are. So good. I'm sure you know, Lisa and I have so much to say about this,

0:43.8

so no coaching time this week. But I do have two recommendations. And celebrate with me. This is my

0:50.1

final week of work travel for the year. And I'm so excited for this trip. I'm off to Oregon.

0:56.1

I'm speaking in Corvallis at Life Community Church. Now, what's funny is my son's point of

1:02.3

reference for where I'm going is they said, oh my goodness, Corvallis, home of Oregon State,

1:07.2

the beavers. So they were pumped. I'm excited to go to Portland.

1:12.1

I have friends there, so I love the city.

1:14.9

And what a great way to top off a great speaking year.

1:18.7

I will come home and crash after almost four months of travel.

1:22.0

But it's been really, really good.

1:24.1

And for as much as you hear about how crazy the airlines are and what a nightmare it is,

1:28.9

I haven't really had a problem this year. So fingers crossed for this weekend. Now, I have two things for

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