How to Detach from a Love Bomber

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Violet Benson

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🗓️ 18 April 2025

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

Think he was your soulmate? wrong. He was just a love bomber with good Wi-Fi.

This isn’t another “just let go” episode. This is your official detachment plan with a twist—designed for the girl who’s done performing for emotionally unstable men who ghost after six weeks of calling you “the one.”

In this short, savage 5 step guide, I’m breaking down how to detox from the fantasy, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop romanticizing the inconsistency of A LOVEBOMBER. Because love bombing isn’t love—it’s manipulation with good marketing.

You’re not crazy. You’re just waking up.

It’s time to stop making chaos feel like home.

And no, babe, he doesn’t get access to this version of you anymore.

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0:00.0	Let's be real. God is not sending you a man who love bombs you on a Monday and forgets your name by Thursday.
0:05.8	That is not divine timing. That is divine redirection. That breakup, that withdrawal of fake affection,
0:13.0	that sudden ghosting after six weeks of You're the One energy, that was your higher self dragging you out of the lion's den because you were too busy
0:23.4	calling you love when it was just chaos with candles. You're not being punished. You're being
0:28.4	protected. I mean, why are you so obsessed with proving your worth to someone who doesn't even
0:34.2	deserve a seat at your table? Why are you trying to resuscitate a connection
0:38.5	built on emotional adrenaline and nothing else? It's time to stop performing for men who can't
0:45.0	even perform in bed, okay? Stop trying to earn love from someone who only gave you attention to feed their
0:51.0	ego. Let me guess. You've been overe-extending yourself for a man who's giving
0:55.0	you what? A situation ship in seasonal depression? You overhear journaling about some divine unions
1:01.0	while he's reposting memes about the grind culture and sending you TikToks to 2 a.m. You're exhausted.
1:07.3	Yes, because you keep giving everything to someone doing the bare freaking minimum.
1:13.4	You're handing out emotional Michelin meals for someone who's showing up with a plastic fork and no appetite.
1:19.8	And for what?
1:21.0	For what?
1:22.0	To prove that you're worthy of being chosen by someone who couldn't even choose a dinner spot after telling you that you're the woman of his dreams just two weeks ago, be so for real right now.
1:32.6	Because here's the thing that no one tells you. Every time you contort yourself just to be chosen, you abandon the most powerful woman in the room. You. Stop bending over backwards, trying to impress men who can barely
1:46.7	plan a date that doesn't involve a couch and a Netflix password. Stop giving wifey energy to someone
1:52.4	who wouldn't even make it past TSA in your emotional airport just because he made some promises
1:56.9	on the first date, but had yet to deliver any of them. If you have to convince him to love you, to see your worth, to keep his promise, to go back
2:05.4	to who he was when you first met him, or to finally be ready, then he is not your soulmate.
2:12.0	He's your self-worth lesson, and guess what?
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