Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

Now let's talk about one of the greatest toxic poisons in any relationship and that is jealousy.

It's also one of the greatest turn-offs, correct? When you are jealous, not the feeling of jealousy, but the behavior of jealousy,

the other person instantly feels grabbed, controlled,

and their reaction will be to run or flee.

Now think about it, if someone grabs you physically, what's your knee-jerk reaction?

It's to get their hands off you, right?

It's to push them away. And that's how jealousy works. When someone is

practicing jealous behavior, the other person is going to want to push them off them right so it cracks trust

it creates drift right there's also anger resentment and it's

totally unattractive. So why are people jealous? I think most

people just want to own people right? We have distorted definitions of what love looks like. I think that this

is part, it could be culture, it could be growing up watching your parents in the way that

they loved each other. It also stems from fears, right?

Fear of being rejected, fear of being not loved, fear of losing someone that you care for or have invested in.

At the same time I think that at the end of the day

jealousy stems from, or at least extreme jealousy stems from

insecurity, you know, our own insecurity with ourselves.

If you were completely secure with yourself

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