This is the 10% Happier Podcast. I'm Dan Harris.

Okay, everybody, today, and in fact, this whole week, we're focusing on emotionally immature people.

Let me say before we dive in that every once in a while here on the show, we like to bring back episodes from the archive that are worth highlighting.

And this week, we're going to focus on two episodes from the same guest because she is that good.

Lindsay C. Gibson is a clinical psychologist and the originator of the concept of emotionally immature people.

And she was a guest on this show back in 2022 and again in 2023.

That first episode from 2022, which you're going to hear today, was about what it means to be emotionally

immature, particularly how it relates to parenting. And the 2023 episode, which we're going to

re-release on Wednesday, focuses on how to disentangle from the emotionally immature people in your

life, whether you're related to them or not. Gibson's book,

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents has more than 10,000 five-star reviews on Amazon,

so this is a topic that clearly resonates. And just to be super clear from the outset here,

she has advice for dealing with emotionally immature people, whether they're your parents or not.

Maybe it's your boss, your spouse, a childhood friend, whatever.

In this conversation, we talk about the signs of emotional immaturity, whether or not I am

emotionally immature, because I got a little worried when I started hearing her talk about the

signs of it.

What happens to children who are raised by emotionally immature parents, including their signature

coping strategies, why adult children of EIPs, that's her term, turn to healing fantasies and how to let

those fantasies go, what you're probably doing with your emotionally immature parents now that

you're an adult and what you should do instead. What role compassion should

and should not play in your relationship with EIPs and how to heal? Lindsay C. Gibson coming up

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