Welcome to the Girl on Top ShalinXO podcast.

I'm your host Shalin Lester and you might know me from my YouTube channel,

where I analyze celebrity relationships and scandals for the lessons we can take into our own lives.

But here on the podcast, I answer the best questions you submitted over the

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Today, our theme is going to be what I have is enough.

What I give is enough.

We're going to talk about boundaries, boundaries for other people, boundaries within ourselves, and what to do about friends and dudes who don't want you to have any. And I know we talk a lot about boundaries, but that's

because it is a constant daily battle. It's our life's work. Whether the boundary is, I'm not going to

order that mac and cheese. I'm not going to order it. Don't. Shallen, don't do it. Whether it's a boundary within yourself to get you where you want to be, or it's a boundary with other people chipping away at you. We're going to break it all down. But first, let's get our head right, right? Okay. We're going to breathe deep. We're going to roll our shoulders back oh loosen our jaw wiggle it back

and forth think about relaxing the inside of your ears right just go a little heavy and we're

going to inhale and as we do we're going to think about the mantra what i have is enough. Inhale.

Now we're going to think about the second mantra. What I give is enough. In through the nose.

And out through the mouth. All right. Wake the mighty women. Let's receive the message.

This question comes from Mary. She said last weekend, I brought my friend Jenna with me to a weekend at my cousin's house. My cousin and her friends are renting for the summer and I had brought

Jen the weekend before and everyone loved her.

However, when I brought Jen this weekend, she was an absolute nightmare. She was rooting through

stuff like the people whose house it was and quote, reorganizing. She was inviting other people

to stay in the house overnight without asking anyone's permission. And she was just generally being pushy about different things that she wanted to do.

She's going to expect to come back again, and I need a kind way to tell her that her behavior is not acceptable.

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