Hey everyone, welcome back to Jillian on Love.

So today I have a special episode.

I am speaking to a woman.

She's in her 30s who doesn't know how to figure out what it is that she needs and what it is that she wants in a partner.

And she was in a relationship for many years.

And what I later discovered towards the second half of our conversation is that she is dating.

And she was dating someone who she actually decided to stop dating,

which was a really good call on her part, and you will see why.

But I take her through a process of understanding what it is that she needs, what it is that

she values, and how to be discerning and to choose someone who's right for her. Because as she describes it,

her pattern, which is pretty much the pattern that most people have had at one point in their

lives is they like someone. There's a lot of chemistry. There's a lot of attraction.

And so she just commits to that person because of that. And she's never really asked herself the questions of,

well, what is important in a partner? What should I be looking for? What should be non-negotiable

and what should be a deal breaker? And so I think this is going to be really helpful for a lot of you.

And for those of you who are in a relationship, this will be helpful too.

And I'm pretty certain that you know someone who really needs to hear this or to watch this.

So without further ado.

Hi, Jillian.

Yeah.

So I guess I don't know how to trust myself to create the kind of love that I'm looking for and I don't even really need how or what that is. Or yeah, how do I know what kind of love I want and how do I make it?

Okay, well, have you been in a relationship before?

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