Imagine yourself stepping onto a tennis court, golf course, or dance floor for the first time and immediately having correct form and performing perfectly. It’s a dumb concept as we all know it’s impossible. To even be decent requires a good bit of training and practice. Now think of all the relationships in your life. Did you have training in how to relate well? Did you practice specific relational tactics and techniques in order to be a great listener, conversationalist and expertly hone your personal relationship skills? It’s doubtful. To make matters more challenging, we actually, all, had some poor relationship skills taught to us so we come into all relationships with some poor and unhealthy form. To start improving we must first audit ourselves. This is part three of my series on Nedra Glover Tawwab and her brand new book, Drama Free. In this episode I’m joined by my frequent co-host, and brother, Jared Angaza. Yep, full blood brother and different last name. I asked Jared to join me because he’s done so much work in his own relational journey and he understands the challenges, and the benefits. We really give focus to the need and opportunity of getting clear on your relational dysfunctions. Even in the absolute best of families with great love, acceptance, and support, there are no perfect people. And as you are imperfect, you will likely adopt unhealthy perspectives around some relational concepts regardless. So getting your learned and adopted dysfunctions on the table is the first step in you having drama free relationships, as Nedra is leading us. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. You can find her on Instagram where 1.6M people are following her relational guidance. And find her new book, Drama Free, anywhere. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices