How to Be a Better Partner w/ John Kim & Vanessa Bennett

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 11 March 2025

⏱️ 59 minutes

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Summary

Dating as an adult is exhausting. While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done…even for professionals. With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners: John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” offers an anecdotal road map of how to “relationship better,” from overcoming commitment issues, to fanning the sex flames, to breaking the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship to inspire us to create healthy bonds with the people we love. Listen to learn why “the one” is a myth, how to wean ourselves off codependency and how to replace obligatory sex with erotic collaboration. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why “The One” is a myth and what actually makes relationships last How to turn obligatory sex into erotic collaboration The secret to avoiding resentment before it ruins your connection Show Notes: More John Kim: Instagram | Website | Book More Vanessa Bennett: Instagram | Website | Book How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life in 2025- Sign up for my FREE masterclass today! For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE. Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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0:00.0	I don't need a sex dungeon, but I do like a little kink.
0:06.4	You know, in the beginning, you're exploring.
0:08.4	It's hot and heavy.
0:10.0	It's a honeymoon.
0:11.3	And so I just pulled that card out.
0:13.5	I was like, hey, can you can't slap you?
0:15.8	And she's like, no, well, you can, but I'm going to slap you back.
0:18.3	And I was like, oh, it doesn't work that way. And I knew in that second that, okay, there's going to be a journey here. There's going to have to be
0:24.6	exploration, compromise. She's not into some of the things that I'm into.
0:30.9	You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure
0:36.4	and liberate the conversation around sex.
0:41.0	Dating as an adult is exhausting.
0:43.9	While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done, even for professionals.
0:51.0	With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners,
0:56.3	John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book, It's Not Me, It's You, offers an anecdotal roadmap of
1:02.3	how to relationship better, from overcoming commitment issues to fanning the sex flames to breaking
1:08.1	the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship
1:12.5	to inspire us to create healthy bonds with the people we love. Listen to learn why the one is a myth,
1:20.0	how to wean ourselves off codependency, and how to replace obligatory sex with erotic collaboration.
1:27.3	Please rate and review sex with Emily wherever you listen to the podcast.
1:30.3	It just helps get the podcast out to more people like you.
1:33.2	You can find us on all social media.
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