How Real Relationships (Not Networking) Lead to Success

Negotiate Anything

American Negotiation Institute

Education, Business, Self-improvement

4.7 • 748 Ratings

🗓️ 24 May 2025

⏱️ 30 minutes

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What if your next life-changing opportunity came from a single conversation with a stranger? In this electrifying episode, Dr. Ruth Gotian returns to share the real secrets behind connecting with anyone—from Nobel Prize winners to NBA champions. Whether you're an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere in between, Ruth breaks down her proven approach to building authentic relationships that open doors, spark collaboration, and create lasting impact—no awkward small talk required. Kwame and Ruth dive deep into: Why you should stop mimicking morning routines and start cultivating curiosity The underrated power of showing up (with or without an agenda) Ruth’s game-changing 24-7-30 follow-up rule for lasting connection How to approach keynote speakers without feeling like a stalker (plus the one thing never to do) Real stories of how genuine interest—not business cards—builds trust that lasts This isn’t just about networking—it’s about building a life and career through meaningful conversation. Listen in and discover how to talk to strangers in a way that actually matters. Connect with Ruth ⁠https://www.ruthgotian.com/⁠ ⁠Follow Ruth on LinkedIn Buy the New Book: ⁠ "The Success Factor"⁠ Buy the book: ⁠Mentoring: A Complete Guide to Effective Mentoring⁠ Contact ANI ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠negotiateanything.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!

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0:00.0	Ruth, welcome back, my friend. Thanks for having me. I am so excited to always chat with you.
0:05.0	Yes, likewise. And I mean, listeners, you almost missed out on an episode because we've been chit-chatting for the last half hour. So I'm glad we're able to make it happen again.
0:13.4	We got plans for the future already, done. Absolutely. World domination. World peace. World domination.
0:18.6	Everything. Oh, yes. When that'd be great. Well, Ruth, for the listeners who missed your first episode, can you remind them of who you are and what you do?
0:26.6	Absolutely.
0:27.6	Hey, everyone.
0:28.6	I am Dr. Ruth Gautian.
0:30.6	I am based in New York City.
0:31.6	I am a social scientist who studies extreme high achievers, Nobel Prize winners, astronauts, Olympians,
0:39.4	NBA champions, CEOs to figure out what has made them so successful and how the rest of us
0:45.4	mere mortals can improve our success. And no, you don't need to wake up at 5 a.m. or read
0:51.1	eight hours a day. I wrote a bunch of books. The last two are the success factor,
0:56.2	which is all about the high achievers. And the new book is Financial Times Guide to Mentoring,
1:02.3	how to Be a Better Mentor, Menti, and how organizations can develop effective mentoring programs.
1:08.2	And I'm a dear friend of Kwame. Yes. Oh, this is great, Ruth. It's good to have
1:12.8	you back. And I think the first question that listeners are asking about is, you said you don't need to
1:17.2	wake up at 5 a.m. or read for eight hours a day. But do you need to take a cold shower?
1:21.6	No, no. No. Because I would prefer to be warm and unsuccessful after the camera.
1:29.3	No cold showers, no making your bed before you do anything else and stop trying to copy other people's habits.
1:35.3	It doesn't work.
1:36.3	Thank you.
1:37.3	I mean, we could end the podcast right.
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