The Bert Show. All right, Katie. So you got yourself in a situation here where you're kind of playing. You're getting close to playing stepmom here. And you're making some serious decisions. Yes. And it's kind of weird because, I don't know. The parents enroll is weird, but I am being eased into it. And part of me is like happy about it. Other part of me is like, am I ready to be a parent? Yeah, like steps will understand this. Like when you come into this family unit, you're not really sure in the beginning like exactly what you can say, what kind of a, do you have authority? Are you just supposed to be the buddy? Are you supposed to be credible? And it's a weird dynamic, you know is and my girlfriend she has a 12 year old daughter

and we're at the point where she's including me on conversations that involve her daughter and of course

she's asked for her daughter's permission and she's like yeah of course i'm cool if katie has her

input on my first boyfriend or you know whatever it may be and in this current situation my girlfriend

and i we are conflicted because i think she should have handled this situation a certain way and she thinks she should have handled it differently. And it all has to do with her daughter went over to spend the weekend with one of her closest friends. Like it was a sleepover. And nothing, she thinks nothing of it. She knows the parents. This isn't the first time that she's had to sleep

over but during the weekend her daughter called her on face time and she's like hey mom like just

showing her what they were doing they're like oh we're out and they were out at a shopping center

and so as she sees them on face time she's like oh well where's so and so's dad like the her friend's

dad that's supposed to be being the

parental supervision right chaperoning yes yes and so her daughter's like oh um he's he's somewhere in

the other aisle you know yeah he's here with us he's here with us she's like okay well if you need me

just let me know so that that was like on Saturday.

The next day when my girlfriend's daughter returns home, she tells us that the father was not with them when they were at the shopping center.

They were left alone.

They were dropped off at the shopping center to hang out and the parents were like, we'll come back and pick you up. Now, mind you, these are 12-year-olds. 12, okay. Two 12-year-olds dropped off at the shopping center, unsupervised. Without the other parents' permission. Without the other, exactly. So we have one layer of my girlfriend's daughter knew not to do that. And we went down that road with her and she was like, blah, blah, blah. But then it's like, how do you address it with the parent, right? Because now it's that I trusted you to watch my child. You didn't do that. My girlfriend's just like, you know what? I know moving forward, she's not going over there ever again. And that's all she wants to do. And I'm like, you should address the parent.

Even if she's not going back over there again, I would address the parent and say, hey, by the way, why would you do that? Why would you think that's cool without my permission? And I'm one of the, like, it's an uncomfortable conversation to have because you're, you're calling out a fellow parent, right? But bottom line, the safety of your child is paramount.

Yes.

Number one, number one priority. you're calling out a fellow parent, right? But bottom line, the safety of your child is paramount.

Yes.

Number one, number one priority.

So would I say something to that parent?

And also, it sucks because that parent's decision is now might have adverse effects

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