Hello and welcome to the 1840 podcast where each month we explore different topic balancing modern sensibilities with traditional sensitivities to give you new approaches to timeless Jewish ideas.

I'm your host, Duffin Bischofkin, and this month we're exploring dating relationships

commitment. This podcast is part of a larger exploration of those big, juicy, Jewish ideas, so be sure

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I always speak to Dina, our audio engineer. She's so much more than an audio engineer that's wildly

unfair of me to say.

She's really, I look at her as the editor-in-chief of the podcast in a lot of ways.

She cuts out a whole lot, believe it or not, especially in this series where each episode is like

11 hours.

She does cut out a lot, and she really makes all the major editorial decisions.

And I spoke to her after she edited

the last episode where I spoke about information asymmetries in different markets. And she called me

on the phone and she says, I just edited your last intro, great episode, etc. She had one comment

to make on the intro. She said, I hated it. It wasn't a

criticism on me. She said, it felt very consumerist. It's a reality. It's a descriptive reality,

but I hated that this exists. I hated this idea. And I wanted to take a moment and almost

like address it because I thought it was fair, because there is a grossness when I teach this

that I think reflexively everybody feels. There's a

grossness in general in the process of dating of what qualities are prioritized and how,

again, I think the term is signaling. How do we signal to others which values we have? You know,

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