If your definition of a love, for example, includes struggle and drama and chaos, like many of us, right, had that definition, hopefully past tense, you'll keep attracting relationships that provide struggle and drama and chaos.

Not because you consciously want that, right?

You don't want fucking chaos in your life, but because your nervous system recognizes chaos as love,

that's what you gravitate toward.

You're pulling from your unconscious, your subconscious, as they say, what's running

underneath, right?

Your definitions or your blueprints also determines what you consider possible, and this

one's big.

If your definition of success requires grinding yourself into the ground, you'll keep blueprints also determines what you consider possible. And this one's big.

If your definition of success requires, it's grinding yourself into the ground.

You'll keep choosing opportunities that, like, burn the candle at both ends.

Again, not because you enjoy exhaustion, but because your blueprint doesn't include sustainable access as an option.

I'm John Kim, a licensed therapist who used to be a miserable fuck before going on a

hero's journey and turning expired relationships into revelations.

I use my story to help others come with you instead of at you, unrehearsed on purpose,

because self-help doesn't have to be polished or complicated, just honest.

So I was supposed to interview a guest today, but because I'm really bad at math, I fucked up

the time zone.

You know, Costa Rica's tricky because it's like half the year.

I think we're one hour ahead of Los Angeles, and then the other half of the year were two hours.

Anyway, there's math involved.

And anytime there's math involved, I always fuck up.

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