"How EMDR Therapy Saved My Dating Life"
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 11 December 2025
⏱️ 57 minutes
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Summary
Maddy, friend and former SOP intern, joins the pod to talk about surviving a break-in, navigating trauma in your early 20s, and how EMDR therapy helped her finally feel safe again. Maddy opens up about the night a man broke into her bedroom, why healing wasn’t as simple as “moving on,” and how hypervigilance shaped her day-to-day life, dating, and friendships. We get into how how meeting someone who understood her triggers changed everything, including the moment she knew her now-boyfriend Jake was different. We talk trusting your intuition, dating after trauma, learning your needs, and why sometimes the person you’re meant to be with starts as your best friend.
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| 0:00.0 | Okay. Hi, everyone. I'm Maddie. And today I'm going to be talking about dating after trauma, |
| 0:09.6 | specifically about EMDR therapy and how that's helped me. And I'm very excited to be here. |
| 0:16.4 | I'm so excited. I do need to point out who you are to the Seeing Other People family because you are |
| 0:23.4 | a very important former member of the Seeing Other People team. My favorite first job. |
| 0:29.7 | So Maddie and I met. She is a recent Syracuse grad. Woohoo. Oh my gosh. I can't believe it's |
| 0:37.3 | been like six months already. That is actually crazy. Does it feel like it? Because I've been working for the full six months. Yeah. I only had summer vacation for a week. I started working at my job. I remember that. Immediately. I remember that. And I was like, damn, this is kind of suck going right into it. |
| 0:54.7 | Like, I don't have a summer. |
| 0:55.5 | And then it ended up being the best thing because I hate to be bored. |
| 0:58.5 | You do the most always. |
| 1:00.8 | Thank you. |
| 1:03.0 | Like, I don't know how you do it. |
| 1:06.4 | But so, okay, so Maddie and I, we were mentor and mentee. |
| 1:12.0 | And then you became social media of seeing other people. |
| 1:17.0 | Yes. |
| 1:17.3 | It was so fun coming up with all the like trends and stuff. |
| 1:20.1 | I think seeing other people was my favorite social media job because it felt relevant |
| 1:24.8 | to my life to other people's life. |
| 1:26.7 | And like the content we were making was, like, interesting. Like, it wasn't, like, something related to, like, school. Like, it felt like it could apply to multiple different groups of people, not just, like, like, when I did it for, like, college clubs. It was like, no one actually cares. Like, it's just for, like, the club. Right. It's for the sake of doing it and learning. But it wasn't like college clubs. It was like, no one actually cares. Like, it's just for like the club. |
| 1:44.6 | Right. |
| 1:44.9 | It's for the sake of doing it. |
| 1:46.0 | It was fun. |
| 1:46.2 | But it wasn't like a rewarding post, you know, but when like people would like comment like, oh my God, loved this or whatever. It was like, oh, this like resonated. It wasn't just a friend commenting. It was like strangers. And now it's full circle now that you're here. |
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