Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship,

from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors.

You deserve respecting kindness.

All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only.

Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Welcome to another episode of love and abuse.

I'm going to write to this message.

I've been sitting on this for a couple months now, and I want to talk about the linear progression of childhood to adulthood and how emotional abuse develops.

Because, I'm talking about this because somebody wrote to me and said, I have a question for you that I've been really stuck on.

I've read emotionally abusive behavior doesn't come from anger management issues or

regulation, but more from a value system of entitlement. I'm just wondering if you have any free

material or resources to understand this specific issue more. Realizing it's a brain, wiring,

an internal value system feels overwhelming to overcome and makes me scared

or scared of how I think and I really want to change.

I'm glad you want to change because the more healthy you are, the better the world is,

the better that you are.

In fact, the better you feel inside you, because

holding on to any of these behaviors and doing these behaviors to people in your life will

only push them away. And you have probably learned that. So I'm glad that you are seeking

information on this. So here's my answer.

I actually had to write this out because there's a lot involved in the sequence of events that occurs from childhood to the point of what you have said, entitlement.

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