How do I resolve shame from my religious upbringing for being LGBTQ?

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Dr. Julie Hanks

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🗓️ 12 October 2021

⏱️ 26 minutes

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In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Kristinya and addresses the question “How do I resolve shame from my religious upbringing for being LGBTQ?” Kristinya shares how she has felt a conflict in her life between her identity as a member of the gay community and her identity as a member of the LDS church. During this episode, Dr. Hanks validates Kristinya’s experience as painful, real, and damaging. Many individuals Dr. Hanks has worked with have shared this same question and you are not alo...

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0:00.0	Welcome to Ask Dr. Julie Hanks, a safe place for healing conversations that educate and empower you to
0:23.2	prioritize your dreams, revolutionize your family, and personalize your faith. I'm your host,
0:29.2	Dr. Julie Hanks, a psychotherapist and coach offering online courses and programs to help women
0:34.5	all over the world heal themselves and their relationships.
0:38.3	Join me here every week as I coach a listener through a specific challenge and empower them with
0:43.2	tools to find healing.
0:45.3	Today with me on the podcast, I am happy to welcome Christina.
0:50.3	Welcome to the show.
0:52.4	Thank you.
0:53.0	Thanks for having me.
0:58.6	What is your question for me today my big question here is what are some ways to dismantle 40 plus years of shame and guilt brought on by messaging in
1:06.7	the church um i was brought up in a time when I heard messages like, it's better to be dead than to be
1:15.3	gay. Okay. Thank you. So how can you dismantle that? Well, the first step you just did is by recognizing
1:26.6	I have shame about this.
1:29.2	What have you already done to work through some of that shame?
1:35.4	A lot of therapy.
1:37.5	I have a wonderful therapist who has been a life changer for me. And then, you know, she's had me follow people like you
1:50.6	on Instagram. And I've read a lot of books and I've listened to a lot of podcasts of people that
1:59.6	are in a similar situation as me.
2:04.2	But it's still very hard when for, you know, a good 40 years of my life, I believed and thought one way.
2:13.0	And, you know, there were times, you know, there's been about three different times in my life that I was ready to commit suicide because of, you know, these thoughts of just how bad I was.
2:28.7	Yeah.
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