How do I heal from a patriarchal marriage and let go of resentment I’m carrying towards the LDS Church?

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Dr. Julie Hanks

Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Education, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

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🗓️ 9 April 2024

⏱️ 23 minutes

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Listen as I chat with Alyssa and answer the question “How do I heal from a patriarchal marriage and let go of resentment I’m carrying towards the LDS Church?” Alyssa and her husband reevaluated the lessons they were taught about marriage and have worked to move toward a partnership model. She feels angry when she thinks about the time she lost living in a patriarchal marriage and sad when she thinks about her past self who didn’t feel empowered.I invite Alyssa to allow herself to feel the ang...

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0:00.0	Hi, friends. Welcome to Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. I'm so glad you're here.
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0:39.8	Hi, Elisa.
0:40.9	Hi.
0:42.2	So happy to have you with me today.
0:45.2	Yeah, thanks for having me.
0:47.0	What is your question for today?
0:49.4	My question is, how do I heal from being in a patriarchal marriage and let go of resentment I'm
0:56.9	carrying towards the church. Okay. So are you still in the patriarchal marriage? No. Okay. Okay.
1:06.5	Did you leave the marriage or did the marriage change? It changed. Okay. So, yeah, we're still
1:15.7	together and he's left the church. And it's been a few years. And that's kind of when like,
1:22.7	because when we were in it, I didn't even notice that it was like a patriarchal marriage and he didn't really either. And so now like
1:30.0	in hindsight, we're looking back and just seeing that it was kind of hierarchical. And so I kind of like
1:38.9	lost myself a little bit. And I don't hold any like resentment or anger towards my husband because I
1:45.8	recognize that like that's kind of what we were taught. Like how we viewed what a marriage was
1:51.1	like, like a husband and wife relationship and things. So now mainly I just have a lot of like
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