Brought to you by the Every Dollar app. Start budgeting for free today. Hi there. I was calling to see about

some advice on how to talk with my wife's about saving more than spending. My wife's a spender. I'm a

saver. We're aligned on our goals, but she just spends a lot of things here and there. And so

just some advice on that.

Was there like a spit shake on,

hey, here's how much we're going to spend,

here's what the budget says, stick to it?

Yeah, we've budgeted out a lot of different things.

We even have a split to where we have our own fund money,

where it's like $100 a month that we can spend it on whatever we'd like but um there's a lot

of gifts and celebrations and things like that that my wife wants to make sure we're showing love

to our friends and family um and then just things add up very quickly um and then things are gone

is this a communication challenge or is your wife being spiteful?

Because there's two different ways to approach this.

I don't think it's, I don't think it's either.

My wife and I communicate very, very well and frequently about it.

And I don't think she's being very spiteful at all.

She agrees that we need to be saving, and we want the things we want, where a house

and being able to retire as both of our families aren't in that basket at all and don't

have a retirement even in their 50s and 60s.

And we don't want to do that, but she just kind of forgets about the

things and it doesn't think about the $20 here or $20 there or $100 here and it just kind of adds up.

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