How Do I Get Closure?

The Angry Therapist Podcast

John Kim

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 25 February 2020

⏱️ 12 minutes

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John Kim (The Angry Therapist) is doing things differently. Therapy in a shot glass. Ten minutes, no filler.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own
0:06.7	rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or
0:11.0	clinical and with you instead of at you I come unrehearsed on
0:15.9	purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. So I'm sending out
0:21.0	like 200,000 texts a month and I want you to be on the receiving end of those texts.
0:27.0	Monday, there's a challenge. Tuesday is about relationships. Wednesday is about mindfulness, Thursday is an inspirational quote,
0:38.4	and then Friday you get a Google Doc that takes you deeper on that week's topic.
0:43.0	It's five bucks a month, so if you could spare a cappuccino or go without,
0:49.0	what's five bucks, half a sandwich these days. You will be able to wake up to these tags. I think we have
0:56.6	so much noise today. It's really, I think, powerful to wake up to something that is going to shift your perspective or give you something to think about at the very least a reminder.
1:12.0	Anyway, you can get my text at the angry therapist.com or just my
1:17.6	bio link on my Instagram at the angry therapist. Okay let's talk about closure. So this is a really big topic. A lot of people see me schedule
1:29.7	appointments because they want to close something.
1:33.0	And I think the biggest misconception about closure is that you need something from the other person for you to close something, right?
1:45.0	And I totally get this, I've been there, I felt this way,
1:49.0	but if you believe this, then you actually become powerless because what you want, what you believe
2:01.0	will close this may never come, right? And you don't have control over that so you may seek
2:05.8	the other person you may seek from the other person, understanding, an apology, an explanation, not wanting to hate you or whatever, right?
2:25.0	And I have wanted all of the above.
2:28.0	And if they don't give you that, then you hold on to it and you keep playing it back and you want it and it
2:37.0	ripples into your next relationship right because it's hard to be present if you are thinking about your previous
2:44.8	and how unsettling that is and what went wrong and and or maybe it's you know how he or
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