Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

Seriously, how do I approach repeated behavior patterns without nagging him?

So I think this is a great question. I think it's something that we all want to know and basically what she's asking is how do I change my partner right without nagging him.

So first I want to tackle her specific question.

She mentions behavior patterns.

And I think a lot of times we make demands on our partner so you know a lot of times what we do is we

hold things in and it bruise we get angry resentful until it explodes and then it's like if you don't stop doing this or that or you know if you don't change then I'm out right so you have to express way before that happens.

The way that you express it, and we'll get into,

but I just wanted to point out the first thing you do

is you have to express it when you feel it,

you know, you can't allow it to grow

into this ball of resentment because you you approaching him and for him it's going to be the first time right if you've

been holding this in it's going to be alarming it's not going to be fair you know so I

think we all have a responsibility

to express the change we want to see in our partner

when it starts to affect us.

So I'm not talking about like,

I'm not talking about dating potential

and wanting to change your partner

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