How Debate Teaches Us to Listen and Be Heard with Bo Seo • X93
Mind Love™ • Consciousness, Spirituality, and Science for Awakening
Melissa Monte | Conscious Coach
4.9 • 906 Ratings
🗓️ 5 August 2022
⏱️ 51 minutes
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Summary
We will learn:
- How we screw ourselves in free-flowing arguments.
- How to break through deadlocked conversations.
- How to bring in empathy in times of disagreement.
Do you shy away from arguments because it’s just not worth it? Or do you run toward them, get nowhere and then feel like crap wishing you hadn’t?
What I’ve found is that so many topics have so much emotion behind them, or dare I say programming, that both sides become blinded by their talking points and have stopped being able to see outside of them.
So how do we get to a place where we respectfully converse? A place where we can come together and shave off the extremities in both of our views and meet somewhere in the middle?
That’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Bo Seo. He is a two-time world champion debater and a former coach of the Australian national debating team and the Harvard College Debating Union. He is one of the most recognized figures in the global debate community and is now the author of Good Arguments: How Debate Teaches Us to Listen and Be Heard.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Mind Love Premium, episode 93. |
| 0:03.0 | Today's episode is all about how debate teaches us to listen and be heard. |
| 0:08.0 | To crises in our public conversation. |
| 0:11.0 | One is the really visible crisis, which is our argument. in our arguments suck often you know and they're loud and they're divisive and |
| 0:19.0 | they're painful but the hidden crisis is the decision that many of us make in watching those spectacles, which is a silent resolution that it's just not worth it. |
| 0:28.5 | So we gravitate towards people we agree with and it's in those echo chambers as you say that |
| 0:34.7 | misinformation proliferates where without challenge our views tend toward the |
| 0:40.0 | extreme but I think it's also a kind of a lonely life when you shy away from the vulnerability |
| 0:47.4 | that's required to engage in a real disagreement and the courage that it takes to submit your ideas up for a kind of a review and to hear an alternative. |
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| 1:14.9 | more subscribers I have the more I attract amazing guests to help better |
| 1:19.7 | serve you so don't forget to subscribe. Do you shy away from arguments because they're just not |
| 1:26.6 | worth it? Or do you run toward them? Get nowhere and then feel like crap wishing |
| 1:32.3 | you hadn't? I do both totally depends on my mood. But I will say these last two years have taught me a lot about what not to do. We've gotten to a point where it feels like most |
| 1:46.0 | arguments worth having aren't worth it. And what kind of oxymoron is that? If it's an argument |
| 1:52.2 | worth having, shouldn't it definitely be worth it? |
| 1:56.2 | But what I've found is that so many topics have so much emotion behind them, or dare I say programming, that both sides become blindsided by their talking |
| 2:06.4 | points and stop being able to see outside of them. There's not just downsides to this. There's real dangers, like families being |
| 2:16.6 | disconnected in a way that's unrepairable. Mob mentalities and tribalism, echo |
| 2:22.4 | chambers that lead to all of us having more extreme |
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