How big of a problem do you want to make this?

WITH LOVE, DANIELLE

Danielle LaPorte

Education, Self-improvement

4.9 • 712 Ratings

🗓️ 3 April 2026

⏱️ 14 minutes

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Summary

Winning answer: Not that big

I read an interview with Madonna who said that when people came into her home in LA and they saw her Frida Kahlo collection of paintings, if they didn't like Frida Kahlo, she couldn't be their friend.

If I'm hanging out with somebody who turns non-problem problems into problems… I mean, I can still be their friend, but I just don't really wanna hang out with them.

Here's the sticky question that changes everything…
How big of a problem do you want to make this?

The obvious answer is always going to be, like…
Not that big of a problem.

Problems don't change until you change how you relate to them. (When we bless them.) We can't control the circumstances in our lives, but we can choose how we think about them.

If storms and fires are the work of the Divine, so are flat tires and breakups. All of it is a blessing (even if it's in disguise). Problems become portals when we get excited about transforming them.

Where everyone else sees a roadblock, we can be like, guys… it's a secret passage to higher consciousness.

Listen in for an excerpt from my new book Bless & Release. Spoiler: The book is funny. That's all I want. Well, it's not all I want. It's what I want the most.

With Love,
Danielle

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0:00.0	Hello, my loves.
0:03.0	I read an interview with Madonna who said that when people came into her home in L.A.
0:10.0	and they saw her Frida Kahlo collection of paintings.
0:15.0	If they didn't like Frida Kahlo, she couldn't be their friend.
0:19.0	And I thought, wow, that's one kind of metric for friendship.
0:25.6	If I'm hanging out with somebody who turns non-problem into problems, I mean, I can still
0:33.7	be their friend, but I just don't really want to hang out with them.
0:37.3	Today's conversation is an excerpt from my new book, Bless and Release.
0:41.3	You've got it, right?
0:42.3	Daniellelaport.com slash bless.
0:45.3	And it's all about reframing problems.
0:48.3	And this is all built on one question.
0:51.3	And I think this is really good if you say it with a bit of an accent.
0:55.0	Any accent you want, but I like kind of a Jersey girl accent.
0:59.0	How big of a problem do you want to make this?
1:02.0	So what's the answer to that question?
1:05.0	Well, it should be pretty obvious, but I'm going to unpack it for you.
1:10.0	Here we go.
1:11.6	With Love, Danielle.
1:17.6	This is Chapter 5 of Bless and Release.
1:22.6	I'm going to kick us off with some Shakespeare, specifically from Hamlet.
1:33.3	There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.
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