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The scariest thing with narcissistic abuse is that a lot of the times the victim doesn't even realize that they're being controlled until it's too late.

Until you're either completely devastated, hurt, or discarded, or perhaps you're not and you're ending

the relationship, but you have been through years of manipulation and gaslighting emotional

abuse. A narcissist on some level has taken control over your mind, your emotions, and even

your reality. And the hard pill to swallow for a lot of people is the fact that this was

something that you unknowingly gave this person control over. You gave them power over your emotions, your reality, and your mind.

Of course, you didn't know you were doing this, but today we are going to end all of that.

A narcissist at its core is a person who has a sense of insecurity and extreme need for control.

They need the validation.

They need the admiration because they have that fragile ego and that ego needs those things, craves those things, requires those things in order to actually live.

Beneath the surface of that calm, confident, charming type of person is a person who is extremely insecure and doesn't have a solid sense of self.

Doesn't really even have any sense of self.

That person will crave that constant need for reinforcement. And this need for control

means that I have to create these different tactics in order to gain control over you.

Instead of them just dealing with their stuff like normal, healthy people do, this is where

the chaos starts. It can be charming, they can be confident, they can be this great person in front of others or maybe even the beginning

of your relationship, but over time, everything completely changes. You start to notice these

patterns, start to make you question what it is that you're actually seeing or what it is

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