If you're really hard on yourself when you look in the mirror, you're more likely to be hard on other people.

One of our major goals is we want to represent God through our marriage.

Explain your heart behind it. I really enjoy being around you and it brings me so much joy and happiness.

I feel like there's so much emphasis. I mean, depending on what circles you surround yourself in, on getting married and like that's the pinnacle of like success. I would say to somebody

that's single like enjoy your singleness. It's okay to be single. It's okay to have that space,

have that time because that's when you get to and you continue to do it when you're married,

but get to work on yourself and figure out like who you are. So I would say the best way to do it

and to detach from the outcome of getting married is just becoming the best version of yourself.

I remember like I kept being like this feels like it's as good as it's going to get so I don't really want to walk away and I've already invested so much time.

And I had these thoughts of like I couldn't see myself without him.

And one more that kind of goes into this is I remember like I had roommates and sometimes I'd come home from dates and they'd be like, like, how was the date?

And I'd be like, it was good. And I said this to the other day. But whenever your voice goes up really high like that, you say, it was good.

It means it wasn't that freaking good, you know, because your voice wouldn't have gone up and like, you're good. You know, we're biased towards ourselves.

But if you look in the mirror and really take inventory and have that list of, would this person be attracted to me?

Then you can go and work on those areas that might be gaps.

I think it's about getting honest with yourself.

Yeah, like, because it's not always black and white.

It's not black and white.

That's, I guess, the challenge of dating in general. It's like, well, if I just do these things, then it'll work out. Well, it's like, it always doesn't.

It's better to spend less years with the right person than more years with the wrong person.

I think everybody out there is going to find happiness in a different way.

In society right now with a lot of quote unquote experts that seem to think that they have the answer for everyone.

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