Have You Ever Felt "Used" in Married Sex? | Ep. 514
Awesome Marriage Podcast
Dr. Kim Kimberling
4.9 • 813 Ratings
🗓️ 21 June 2022
⏱️ 48 minutes
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Summary
Is it ever okay to feel used in married sex? If you're struggling with feeling this way, don't settle for staying stuck there. We will speak to several different contexts in today's episode. Wherever your marriage is today, we pray you find encouragement, know that you are not alone, and know that God wants you to find health and enjoyment in the sexual relationship in your marriage.
We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations and practical advice on how to build an awesome marriage. |
| 0:09.9 | I am your podcast producer and co-host, Lindsay Few. |
| 0:13.4 | On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kimberly. |
| 0:17.0 | Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 50 years. |
| 0:21.8 | His passion is to help you strengthen your most intimate relationship. |
| 0:30.1 | Have you ever felt used in sex? |
| 0:34.1 | Sex is one of the gifts that God gives us in marriage, yet it is still one of the most |
| 0:38.7 | frequently argued over topics among couples. And it's also not something that many of us |
| 0:44.0 | will talk that candidly about with friends because it's so personal and intimate that we often |
| 0:48.8 | end up struggling silently with our sex problems. And that's why we're addressing this |
| 0:53.1 | issue today. So thanks for tuning in. We're so glad to be problems. And that's why we're addressing this issue today. So thanks for tuning in. |
| 0:56.5 | We're so glad to be here. And we hope that this conversation is going to shed some light on |
| 1:00.7 | some of the great observations and wisdom that Dr. Kim can bring us from the counseling room. |
| 1:06.2 | So Dr. Kim, when you're counseling couples, how often are they having healthy and productive conversations |
| 1:11.9 | about sex? |
| 1:13.2 | Very seldom, unfortunately. |
| 1:15.6 | I think it's one of those things that when we, because I think the key and the question is healthy. |
| 1:20.7 | They have conversation about sex, but maybe it's when one's mad or one is saying I want |
| 1:26.2 | to have sex and the other says, I don't or treated me this way. How can you I want to have sex and the other says I don't or treated me |
| 1:29.5 | this way how can you expect me to have sex with you things like that well those aren't healthy |
| 1:33.2 | conversations I mean they're things that need to be dealt with but as far as couples just |
| 1:38.3 | sitting down and and talking about what they like what they don't like what they'd like |
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