Things you would never bring up in therapy, you could bring up here.

So there's a difference between dating and marriage.

So there's a difference between people you date and people you marry.

And I'm only using marriage as a societal template of the evolution of a relationship.

Not everyone wants to get married. I'm not married. I've been married, but I'm not currently married.

But I'm in a monogamous partnership.

And yes, I am doing this video in the tent of my two-year-old. She's at school. Don't tell her that I am

jumping into her fort. She will have a shit fit. Okay, let's talk about the mindset. Because people you date,

your mindset is on exploration, right?

And this is the biggest mistake I think people who date have is that, one second.

People who date, sorry.

Oh, shit.

People who date, they. Ah, shit. People who date,

they're dating to find

marriage and that can be dangerous.

Shut up, baby shark.

If your,

if your mindset is

turned on exploration when you are dating,

then you are open, you are discovering,

you're not having expectations on this leading to marriage.

And so there's less pressure, right?

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