Hard Things to Bring Up in Therapy | Stay or Go?

The Angry Therapist Podcast

John Kim

Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 20 November 2025

⏱️ 20 minutes

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In today’s Q&A, we get into the real questions people ask when they’re standing at the edge of a relationship crossroads. When you’re torn between fear and intuition… when the attraction feels off… when you’re trying to communicate your way through a situationship… when you’re healing but also craving connection… when you don’t know if you’re choosing someone, settling for someone, or staying because it feels safer than leaving. These are the moments where the truth gets loud — if you’re willing to listen. 📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠ Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Things you would never bring up in therapy you could bring up here.
0:14.3	How do I know if I'm staying in a relationship out of fear?
0:18.6	When we make it about someone else instead of ourself, we usually have
0:22.0	more courage. So if you're in a relationship where you feel nothing and that nothing that you
0:27.2	feel is unfixable and you're in it just because you're afraid, instead of thinking about you,
0:32.6	think about the other person and what kind of love they deserve, right?
0:38.2	That may give you the courage to be honest.
0:42.8	Because if you only think about yourself, you're just going to amplify the fear,
0:47.6	and that fear is going to be what prevents you from facing truth.
0:53.7	You know, I always think about when I'm in a relationship,
0:58.7	if I'm not working on the relationship and I have checked out, I tell myself that I'm taking
1:05.4	someone hostage, you know? It's not fair to the other person. And if you care about the other
1:10.1	person, then you might then have the courage to really
1:15.9	look at this thing honestly and decide whether you want to work on it or let the other
1:20.4	person go.
1:24.4	So they could find a love that they deserve.
1:28.2	How important is physical attraction to your romantic partner?
1:33.4	The short answer is yes, because if you're not attracted to your partner, then if you're not
1:38.8	attracted to your partner in that kind of way, then what are you?
1:42.3	I mean, you're friends, roommates, business partners,
1:47.2	you know, and unfortunately, because of life, because of raising kids, because of just a way
1:54.7	that works out over time, we fade, disconnect, and yeah, we end up not being attracted to our partners right and we end up
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